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Online dating is most popular in the US, with 21.9% of the population using it. The dating app market brought in a massive $5.61 billion in revenue in 2021. Two in every five couples met online. Nearly 3 in 20 people (14.7%) have had a relationship that’s lasted longer than a year after online dating. 54% of Americans say meeting online makes no difference to whether the relationship works out or not. 80% of Tinder users claim to be looking for a meaningful relationship. 36% of men say that they’re using online dating for sex, compared to just 14% of women. 61% of online daters want to meet people with shared interests. 7% of people who have ever used dating apps or websites have used them to cheat on a significant other. Tinder is the dating app that has the most global users. The dating app market brought in a massive $5.61 billion in revenue in 2021. The biggest market share went to the Match Group, which owns Tinder—pocketing almost $3 billion. Here are the most common ways people in the States say they meet partners these days: 1995 2023 Online 2% 39% Bars/restaurants 19% 27% Through friends 33% 20% At work 19% 11% At school 19% 9% Through family 15% 7% Research published in the Journal ‘Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking’ looked at data from Stanford University detailing how over 4000 couples met. It found that those who met online were more likely to break up than people who had met in real life. After controlling other variables, it noted 32% of online unmarried couples split up during the course of the survey. That’s compared to only 23% of offline unmarried couples who broke up. The study’s author Aditi Paul put forward her own theory for why: “This could be because people think, ‘You know what, I met somebody online, so I understand that there are other people available once I break up with this person.'” “Think about women going dress shopping. We always think that the better dress is in the next shop. Now we’re shopping for relationships; we’re looking for the better deal.” Here are some of the best apps for 2023 as highlighted by Mind Body Green: Best app for a long-term relationship — eHarmony Best app for seniors — Match Best app for casual dating and hookups — Tinder Best app for women — Bumble Best app for quality interactions — Hinge Best for traveling — Happn Best for black people — Blk Best for gay men — Grindr Best for queer people — Lex Best for queer women — Her Best for religious daters — Christian Mingle, JSwipe, & Salam Best for busy people — Coffee Meets Bagel Best for kinky dating — Feeld Why online dating is hard for men: More men than women use online dating There are more active guys using online dating than women. That’s pretty much the case for whichever site or app you use. Bumble has one of the more even splits (43% women and 57% men). Tinder has one of the worst. According to a 2021 survey, its users are almost 80% male. So there are four men for every woman. That means it’s a lot more competitive for guys. And it also means… Women are more selective If the ratio is so skewed, it stands to reason women can be a lot more choosy when they’re getting more attention. One research study created a fake male and female profile. They found the match rate for the fake woman was 10.5% compared to only 0.6% for the fake guy. Ouch. This so-called paradox of choice created in online dating can compel us all to carry on swiping rather than make a decision. Why online dating is hard for women Quantity, not quality matches The higher ratio of men online dating doesn’t actually help women in the way you might at first assume. Instead, it creates what researchers call a so-called “feedback loop” that goes like this: Men serially swipe on anyone just to get more matches, but women are far more discerning. But what it means is that women are more invested in their matches. Meanwhile, men send out lots of messages but aren’t prepared to put the work in because they’re playing a numbers game. Harassment Women face far more harassment than men do online dating. For example, Pew Research Center found: — 60% of female users ages 18 to 34 say someone on a dating site or app continued to contact them after they said they were not interested — 57% of women report being sent a sexually explicit message or image they didn’t ask for. 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We’ve put together 25 online dating statistics that show you what’s going on in the industry. Andrej Hadji-VasilevJasna Mishevska Written by Andrej Hadji-Vasilev (Writer) Facts checked by Jasna Mishevska (Lead Fact-Checking Editor) Last Updated: 03 Aug'23 All our content is written fully by humans; we do not publish AI writing. Learn more here. +--+ "$d_web"'Cool stuff/' mate cloudwards.net online dating statistics 2020 230803.png mate cloudwards.net US pct who have used dating sites 230803.png mate cloudwards.net relationships from online dating 230803.png mate cloudwards.net feelings related to online dating 230803.png +-----+ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mating-game/201609/the-ugly-truth-about-online-dating Ryan Anderson Ph.D. The Mating Game: The Ugly Truth About Online Dating Are we sacrificing love for convenience? Posted September 6, 2016 | Reviewed by Lybi Ma According to one survey, a total of 53% of US participants admitted to having lied in their online dating profile. Research says one-third of all people who use online dating sites have never actually gone on a date with someone they met online. A study showed that reviewing multiple dating candidates online causes people to be more judgmental about them. A study of over 1,000 online daters in the US and UK conducted by global research agency OpinionMatters founds some very interesting statistics. A total of 53% of US participants admitted to having lied in their online dating profile. Women apparently lied more than men, with the most common dishonesties being about looks. Over 20% of women posted photos of their younger selves. But men were only marginally better. Their most common lies were about their financial situation, specifically about having a better job (financially) than they actually do. More than 40% of men indicated that they did this, but the tactic was also employed by nearly a third of women. #08********08 #] 29Dec2023 Howell comments on open marriage see "$d_web"'ProjThink/marriage & sex notes.html' section "Questions" #08********08 #] 29Dec2023 search "open marriage" +-----+ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage Open marriage is a form of non-monogamy in which the partners of a dyadic marriage agree that each may engage in extramarital sexual or romantic relationships, without this being regarded by them as infidelity, and consider or establish an open relationship despite the implied monogamy of marriage. There are variant forms of open marriage such as swinging and polyamory, each with the partners having varying levels of input into their spouse's activities. Ideals of an open marriage Here-and-now living combined with realistic expectations: There is a reduction of commitment to and sacrifice in the long-term goals. Personal privacy: A greater respect for personal privacy than in a traditional marriage. Open and honest communication: sharing, self-disclosure, and productive fighting. Role flexibility: open partners exhibit this considerably. Open companionship: avoiding traditional marriage assumptions of coupledness. This may involve the development of deep personal, sexual relationships with other members outside their marriage. Equality: equality of power as well as responsibility. Pursuit of identity: An individual's uniqueness is valued, differences are not seen as a threat. Mutual trust: an assumption that everything is out on the open and that one's partner is not a possession that is guarded.[12] ... Jealousy issues A 1981 study concluded that around 80 percent of people in open marriages experienced jealousy over their extramarital relationships.[17][18] Couples in open marriages experienced as much or more jealousy than people in sexually monogamous marriages.[19][20][15] People who experience normal jealousy have at least nine strategies for coping with jealousy. The problem-solving strategies include: improving the primary relationship, interfering with the rival relationship, demanding commitment, and self-assessment. The emotion-focused strategies include: derogation of partner or rival, developing alternatives, denial/avoidance, support/catharsis, and appraisal challenge. These strategies are related to emotion regulation, conflict management, and cognitive change. ... Incidence Parts of this article (those related to this section) need to be updated. Please help update this article to reflect recent events or newly available information. (May 2018) In 1983, Blumstein and Schwartz[5] determined that out of 3,498 married men, 903 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex; of these, 24 percent (217 men) actually engaged in extramarital sex during the previous year, and overall 6 percent had been actively involved in open marriages during the previous year. The number is only slightly less for women, where of 3,520 married women, 801 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, and 22 percent (or 176 women) actually engaged in extramarital sex during the previous year. This means about 5 percent of married women were actively involved in open marriages during the previous year. Those estimates are slightly higher than those from other researchers. Hunt, based on interviews from a 1974 national study of sexual behavior, estimated that 2% to 4% of the married population was involved in open marriages.[7] Bartell (1971) estimated that two percent of the married population was involved in open marriages.[43] The lowest estimate comes from a study conducted by Spanier and Cole (1975) of several hundred people living in the midwestern United States, which found 1.7 percent of married people involved in open marriages.[6] Following the 1972 publication of Open Marriage, the popular media expressed a belief that open marriages were on the rise. However, Hunt concluded the incidence of extramarital sex had remained about the same for many years: Among wives under 25, however, there is a very large increase, but even this has only brought the incidence of extramarital behavior for these young women close to—but not yet on par with—the incidence of extramarital behavior among under-25 husbands. (Hunt, 1974, page 254)[7] Hunt attributed the mistaken impression of increasing open marriages to a barrage of books, articles, and television shows dealing with the topic. He also notes that speculative comments about increases in open marriage would sometimes be repeated often enough that people cited them as evidence. Nearly twenty years later (1993), in a national study of sexual behavior, Janus and Janus likewise denied that open marriages were on the rise, and suggested the number of open marriages may have declined: Despite popularization in a book of that title in the early 1970s, open marriage has never become as prevalent as nonconsensual extramarital activities, and its popularity seems to be waning even further today." (Janus & Janus, 1993, pages 197–198)[53] A large amount of media interest can mislead people into thinking the incidence of open marriage is on the rise. Conversely, media attention given to the marriage movement can mislead people into thinking the incidence of open marriage is declining. Weiss (1997) notes that "there is no scientific basis for concluding that these patterns increased in popularity earlier or that they have become less common in the 1980s and 1990s."[54] #08********08 #] 29Dec2023 Jennifer Wilson: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular? https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/01/01/american-poly-christopher-gleason-book-review-more-a-memoir-of-open-marriage-molly-roden-winter How Did Polyamory Become So Popular? Once the province of utopian free-love communities, consensual non-monogamy is now the stuff of Park Slope marriages and prestige television. By Jennifer Wilson December 25, 2023 >> author has some comments, but is [narrow, blind, useless] for the most part # enddoc